Most do not want to change.
Most people do not want to change. This is ironic because we’re all changing every day whether we realize it or not. Our thoughts change. Our attitudes change. Tons of changes occur each day within our biological systems. We change when we seek education. We change when we seek truth. And yet people prefer to hang onto what they’ve always known.
We’re often better off if we catalyze the change. If we’re the ones who bring about the change. For instance, if we’re stuck or feel like we’ve plateaued in the gym, typically the best thing to do is change up the workout routine and try a new exercise. The more dedicated person will seek that which is harder to do. When we’re stuck, we may just need a new challenge or a different set of challenges. Strangely, we can get too good at doing something that was once challenging for us. And when we get too good, we go through the motions without others noticing. It is another irony of change. We practiced so much at that we once sucked at that we got good and now we’re going through the motions. It is time to catalyze change again and determine the next new challenge.
Executive coaches run into people who do not want to change all the time. In fact, their intransigence make them the worst clients. Being too stubborn in their ways might have gotten them that far, but it may not be enough to get them to the next level. Hence, the executive coach recommendation. It is important to note that coaches cannot help those who cannot help themselves and desire to change. Imagine how difficult change is when you’re already surrounded by success and its trappings. You already have the corner office. You already have the high salary + bonus. You already have the decades of experience. You already have the division to run. You already have the status and authority. Why change now?
If we’re too stubborn to change, change can be thrust upon us. A health crisis hits the sedentary. Separations slap the emotionally vacant. Friends move on and stop inviting us out. Our skills atrophy due to nonuse. Much of what we do is perishable: use or lose. Practice is not an option. It is a must.
Despite financial and successful means, we’re all works in progress seeking to maximize our potential. We all seek to build our outputs for the benefit of our co-workers, our friends & family, and our legacies. Despite those of us who decide to hold onto perfectionist tendencies, we all have room to grow and to change personally, professionally, physically, and emotionally. There’s always a new level. This should inspire rather than deflate. It ought to catalyze our need to strive and to compete. We try harder in the gym when others are present. Your co-workers make you better and help you improve, similar to how the competition keeps you sharp.
Those who bring engagement and joy to their work exhibit high emotional intelligence and light up those around them, automatically adding value with their presence.
What about those who still hang onto the old way of doing things, who stand fast in the face of change? What of them? It is always best to set the example first. Show them successful change. No need to brag — just show what’s possible. Talk to them about times where they may have had to face change in the past and were successful. A fear of change is almost always an anxiety about the future. Those who possess a healthy optimism rarely fear change. Those who are pessimistic of the future are the ones with difficulty facing change. Fear or not, we’ve all faced times when change was thrust upon us. How we dealt with it was largely the deciding factor. Often times, it was far less scary after the change transpired.